Review: Henri Nouwen & The Return of the Prodigal

Henri Nouwen & The Return of the Prodigal Son (Stories of Great Books), Gabrielle Earnshaw. Brewster: MA: Paraclete Press, 2020.

Summary: An account of the crisis, transformation and subsequent writing process behind Henri Nouwen’s The Return of the Prodigal Son.

Many of us have been deeply moved by reading Henri Nouwen’s The Return of the Prodigal Son. Nouwen’s reflections on his encounter with Rembrandt’s painting of “The Return of the Prodigal Son” address our loneliness, our “elder son” resentments, our need for forgiveness and to know we are loved. Nouwen invites us not only to be loved, but to love as the Father loves.

Gabrielle Earnshaw explores how Nouwen came to write this wonderful book, the response to it, and how the writing of it changed the last years of Nouwen’s life. Earnshaw is well-qualified for this task she is the founding archivist of the Henri J.M. Nouwen Archives and Research Collection at the University of St. Michael’s College and current Chief Archivist for the Henri Nouwen Legacy Trust.

She traces the spiritual struggle of Nouwen to know he was loved that culminated in his collapse in front of a poster of Rembrandt’s painting and the series of life altering experiences that followed this initial encounter–the end of his work at Harvard, the extended meditation on the original painting in St. Petersburg, his call to L’Arche Daybreak, his strained relationship with Nathan Ball, breakdown, and recovery at the Homes for Growth.

It was during this time that he began to write about the painting and shared his writing with Sue Mosteller. Mosteller had invited him to L’Arche and stayed connected with him during his recovery. She affirmed the significance of claiming his sonship, but also challenged him to a further step that would prove transforming.

…I ask myself if the real call for you is the call to become the Father. Once the sons have made their unique passages are they not then ready to become like the Father, to become the Father? And truly Henri, aren’t you right there? Is that what this passage is all about? Isn’t this why you chose to come to Daybreak in the first place; because in your life journey you were more ready to be the Father and you knew somewhere in yourself that it was time to “put away the things of the son”?

With Mosteller’s help and wise counsel, he effects a reconciliation with Ball, with whom he shares leadership of L’Arche Daybreak. Earnshaw traces the difference in Nouwen after his return. She also recounts the writing process, work with Doubleday, his publisher, and the response to his book. It received little critical notice, despite pleas that his work was much like that of Madeleine L’Engle, reviewed in the New York Times. Sales grew slowly and steadily, fueled not by critical reception, but by word of mouth from readers. A paperback version further expanded circulation. Earnshaw even sets the book in the zeitgeist of the 1990’s.

Nouwen would live four more years after publication of Prodigal. He truly became father to the L’Arche community, not completely freed from his struggles, but growing into the father role. This was his most productive time of writing. His lifelong struggle with his sexuality continued, but his growing comfort as father allowed him the freedom to play a clown, and to care for the core members of the community. In his last years he became taken with the combination of freedom and safety in the trapeze act of the Flying Rodleighs. He even worked with them, but never had the chance to form his experiences into writing before his death from a heart attack in 1996.

Earnshaw writes both with scholarly care and deep insight into Nouwen’s journey of writing this book. One ordinarily would not think of an account of how a book was written as spiritually edifying. This was different because Earnshaw helps us enter into Nouwen’s journey with Rembrandt’s painting. She captures the “wounded healer” Nouwen, one who answered the vocation to become a father, even as he wrestled to believe in his belovedness. She traces the transforming process in his life, and the blessing he offered to the members of his community and thousands of readers. Reading this book not only points us to a classic. It points us to the Father whose hands rest on the prodigal’s shoulders and invites the elder son to share his joy.

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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary review copy of this book from the publisher. The opinions I have expressed are my own.

Going Deeper: The Present of Owning Who We Are

Christ after his Resurrection, with the ostentatio vulnerum, showing his wounds, Austria, c. 1500

Christ after his Resurrection, with the ostentatio vulnerum, showing his wounds, Austria, c. 1500

You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain. Psalm 139:1-6 (NIV)

I’ve been thinking all week about Pastor Rich’s first sermon on returning from his sabbatical. Much of this focused around how he learned during his sabbatical to begin to own and live with some of the qualities about himself with which he has always wrestled: his restlessness and discontent.

The realization for him was that these were not going to change in three months, or maybe a lifetime. Rather, we need to grasp that part of the process of become fully human in the ways our Lord would intend is to neither deny or try to change who we are but to own that before God and with ourselves. We join the psalmist in acknowledging that who we are has always been known to God and is part of our fearfulness and wonderfulness.

The “present” in this realization really is the present. Blaise Pascal once said, “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” To live in the moment, not by ourselves but to own who we are and live with ourselves is a gift. It comes from the God who is graciously present with us — who sees us through and through and yet chooses to be “God with us”. If God can handle who I am and set his love upon me, then I am free to see myself for who I am and own that. I can sit quietly with myself.

I appreciated Rich’s candor about the qualities of self he struggles with and is learning to own. I appreciated his concluding challenge that we are too often absent to ourselves and God.

What I think Rich did is describe each of our life journeys toward wholeness. We might put different words in place of restless and discontent. For me it can be self-righteousness and compulsive diligence. Forty years of walking with Jesus hasn’t eradicated them. But knowing that Jesus knows these things, and chooses to walk with me means I can even laugh about these things, and accept the warnings of my wife when they are getting out of hand in my life.

I also wonder if there is something more. Henri Nouwen, in The Wounded Healer suggests that when we face our own woundedness and own these wounds and how we suffer from them, and offer them to God, they don’t go away, but become the source of bringing healing to others. They become sacred wounds, analogous to the wounds in the hands and feet of Jesus.

Rich, you gave us an example of that this Sunday in sharing your own sabbatical journey, and with that the wounds of restlessness and discontent. Sharing how you’ve come to own these, and live in the presence of God with these extends hope that Christ can meet each of us in this way. That is a profound gift to us all.

Spiritual Formation Books

Recently, several people asked me for a list of books on spiritual direction. I didn’t feel I’d read enough of these to provide much of a list. However, many books on spiritual formation touch on this and have much else that is helpful to growing in our love for God and more fully reflecting his intentions for us. Since this is a “day apart” for many of us (for others Friday, Saturday, or a different day), I thought I might post a list of the books I’ve reviewed over the past couple years in the area of spiritual formation. They are in order from most recent to earliest, with links to my reviews.

  1. The Rule of St Benedict. Classic little book describing the ordering of monastic life.
  2. Holy Listening: The Art of Spiritual DirectionMargaret Guenther describes her own practice of spiritual direction.
  3. Discovering Lectio Divina: Bringing Scripture Into Ordinary Life. Howard and Wilhoit give practical instruction in this ancient practice of meditative reading that traces back to the Benedictines.
  4. The Life of the Body: Physical Well-Being and Spiritual FormationHess and Arnold talk about the link between the care of our bodies and our spiritual life.
  5. The Third Third of Life: Preparing for Your FutureThis book explores how we position ourselves to finish well the final leg of our lives.
  6. Lord, Teach Us to Pray. This is a little gem of a book of Andrew Murray’s reflections on four passages on prayer.
  7. Green Leaves for Later Years. Another book on spirituality in the later years of life, one my wife and I both enjoyed!
  8. Spiritual Rhythms in Community. This book explores how spiritual formation can occur in a group context.
  9. The Return of the Prodigal. Henri Nouwen’s wonderful treatment of the parable of the lost sons inspired by Rembrandt’s painting of the Return of the Prodigal.
  10. The Critical Journey: Stages in the Life of Faith. Hagberg and Guelich consider our growth in faith as a progressive journey with identifiable stages.
  11. Pursuing God’s Will Together: A Discernment Practice for Leadership Groups. Explores how can leadership rise out of our habits of spiritual formation, where our decisions are spiritual discerned.
  12. A Traveler’s Guide to the KingdomJames Emory White links descriptions of various places to which he has traveled with various aspects of the Christian life. A travelogue for the journey.
  13. Kneeling with the GiantsExplores prayer through the example of ten saints.
  14. The Enneagram in Love and Work. A good introduction to the Enneagram, a tool that works by identifying one’s cardinal sin. This book focuses particularly on our love and work relationships.
  15. True Self, False Self: Unmasking the Spirit Within. True self, false self is an important concept in spiritual formation work–the false self being defined as what we have or do, the true self, who we are as God’s beloved.
  16. The Contemplative Pastor, Returning to the Art of Spiritual Direction. Classic Eugene Peterson writing to pastors about this important aspect of their work.
  17. The Fire of the Word: Meeting God on Holy GroundThis book focuses on our practices of reading scripture and not just reading a text but encountering the living God in the words of scripture.
  18. Seasons of the Soul: Stages of Spiritual DevelopmentAnother book on stages of spiritual life, simplifying this to three: orientation, disorientation, reorientation.
  19. The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-DiscoveryDavid Benner’s book gives what I think is the best account of true self/false self.
  20. Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership: Seeking God in the Crucible of MinistryRuth Haley Barton uses the life of Moses to explore the spiritual formation life of leaders.

Well there’s twenty books! I don’t necessarily consider these the best 20 books on spiritual formation, simply those I’ve reviewed in the last couple years. Are there books on this topic that you’ve found helpful? I’d love to hear of these!